m 16 gay. i have a crush on my junior. i really like him and really wanna know him more. but i even barely talk to him. plus i don't know if he's gay too or not. one thing for sure is i often catch him looking at me, i thought he liked me at first and planned to go try talking to him but then he asked another girl out. im so brokenhearted. although he's with her he's still looking at me! ugh. im very upset because i wish i had someone, but i have no one. :( what should i do? — Anonymous

Him looking at you doesn’t really mean anything, to be honest. There’s really nothing you can do unless he comes to you since you don’t know if he’s gay or not, and approaching him might put him on the defense if he’s not gay.

- Anthony

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m 15 gay. ive spent many times not feeling good about myself. i wanna come out, but im scared. i live in a homophobic city and my mom is a huge homophobic. she thinks that it's a sin and that gays are scary. but it's really bugging the fuck out of me to just stay in the closet. what should i do? should i just live in the closet for the rest of my life like i know many people do out there? sometimes i wonder why god hates gays if he created us. i just want to live peacefully — Anonymous

Honestly, I’d advise you to stay in the closet. If coming out might endanger you because of where you live, it’s best to keep your sexuality to yourself until you’re out on your own. After you go off to college or move out of your house, you can then come out to your mom. That way you won’t have to worry about living in the same house as someone who doesn’t approve of who you are. If you really want to come out in some way, maybe you can come out to your friends. Normally younger people nowadays are more accepting.

- Anthony

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M 21, basically I'm gay and I've never had a boyfriend. My closest friends knows it but I haven't told my parents yet. I live in a small and kinda homophobic city and I've never met another gay boy. My life is not 100% shit but I always feel very lonely and hate almost everything about my personality (I'm shy and very awkward with people despite being a swimmer), I'd like to change my life but I don't have a clue how to do it and I don't feel like doing such things as online dating... — Anonymous

Online dating might actually work for you, though. I mean, if your goal is to find other guys like you or to just find people to hang out with. Sometimes when you live in a small town and you aren’t aware of anyone else who shares the same interests as you, can be a vital tool. Why not give it a try? You can set up a profile on a dating site and see if there are other people around you. It doesn’t mean you have to date or meet anyone, but you’ll be able to see that you aren’t alone in your town.

- Anthony

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F/17 I've never had a real "crush" on a guy. I always told friends that I didn't have one but felt the need to lie later on in case they started questioning me on why. I've found some guys cute in the past but haven't liked any of them to a level in which I can say I have a "crush" on them because each guy I started liking had bad personalities & were actually assholes. I get crushes on mostly female celebs though....but I don't like other girls that way. Is there something wrong with me? — Anonymous

Well no, there’s nothing wrong with you for having crushes on female celebrities. I think it’s easier to crush on a celebrity because of how we hold them up on a pedestal. Because of who they are, we don’t see the negative aspects of their personalities so we think they’re perfect and it makes it easier to like them. On the contrary, you know the guys you meet in real life and there are no PR people behind them to keep them from exposing their horrible personalities to you so it’s easier to dislike them. 

- Anthony

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M 28 I was beaten as a child which has lead me to be a quiet person. if you don't know me. but if you do know me, I'm very childish. I don't swear. I don't drink alcohol. Tbh I'd rather watch cartoons then go to a club. Somehow someway I've gotten a girlfriend, she's beautiful and is always my shoulder to cry on. And she's experienced sexually. She wants to have sex, but I'm still a virgin and well, I don't give sex much thought so I feel like it's gonna be bad. I'm nervous but she insists. — Anonymous

Well firstly, not drinking alcohol and preferring cartoons over clubbing does not make you childish, it just means you have preferences. Secondly, if she knows you’re a virgin, then she most likely understands what it’s like to have sex for the first time. You’re lucky, though, because she’ll be able to guide you through it. You’re not going to be perfect the first time around and nobody should expect you to be. And guess what, it might be bad, that’s the point. No one is a sex expert the first time around. She sounds like a great girl and you don’t have anything to worry about.

- Anthony

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